Some books begin with an idea. The I Was Used to Being Used series began with a lived journey through childhood trauma, damaged self-worth, spiritual growth, and restoration.
Through a Christian perspective, Pastor Ky Cunningham addresses the emotional and spiritual effects of exploitation, rejection, abuse, and recurring toxic relationships. The series includes a spiritual warfare manual and a companion workbook, giving readers both foundational teaching and a practical way to apply it.
When Past Wounds Continue Shaping the Present
The first book, I Was Used to Being Used: Christian Spiritual Warfare Manual for Breaking Generational Curses, Overcoming Abuse, Inner Healing, and Defeating the Enemy, is written for readers who feel burdened by experiences they have struggled to leave behind.
Trauma can influence decisions, expectations, relationships, and personal identity long after the original experience has passed. Someone may become so familiar with rejection or exploitation that harmful patterns begin to feel normal. Pastor Ky Cunningham encourages readers to examine these cycles carefully and recognize the spiritual and emotional forces that may be keeping them in place.
The book discusses what Pastor Ky Cunningham describes as the weapons of trauma. These are painful experiences and beliefs that can be used to create fear, shame, isolation, or confusion. By identifying where these patterns began, readers can start addressing the wounds beneath their behavior.
The manual also explores generational curses, ungodly soul ties, spiritual strongholds, and the influence of negative speech. Readers receive guidance for closing spiritual doors, confronting harmful beliefs, and developing a stronger awareness of their authority in Christ.
Inner healing remains central throughout the book. Pastor Ky Cunningham invites readers to reconsider identities formed through pain and to reconnect with the value and purpose God has given them. The process requires honesty, prayer, reflection, and a willingness to face experiences that may have remained hidden for years.
A Workbook Designed for Active Participation
The second book, I Was Used to Being Used: The Companion Workbook for Dismantling Strongholds, Healing Soul Wounds, and Defeating the Enemy, helps readers put the manual’s teachings into practice.
Each section offers interactive life-application assignments that encourage readers to explore personal experiences and recognize unresolved soul wounds. These prompts create space for meaningful self-examination. They also help readers identify the thoughts, relationships, and habits connected to previous trauma.
Strategic prayer points guide readers through focused spiritual work. Subjects include uprooting generational curses, dismantling strongholds, addressing negative speech, and closing doors that may have allowed damaging patterns to continue. The workbook gives readers a clear structure for recording their observations, prayers, decisions, and progress.
Its organization allows the two books to be used together. A reader can study a principle in the manual, consider its meaning, and then complete the related workbook exercises. This creates a personal plan for healing that develops one step at a time.
Pastor Ky Cunningham also places strong emphasis on divine identity. The workbook encourages readers to move away from beliefs formed through rejection and exploitation. Its reflective activities support a healthier understanding of worth, purpose, and spiritual authority through Jesus Christ.
About the Author
Pastor Ky Cunningham was born in Atlanta, Georgia. Her family briefly lived in East Cleveland before settling in Cincinnati, Ohio, where she grew up. She and her husband, Kenny, have been married for 25 years. They have three sons, a daughter-in-love, and two grandsons.
In 2016, Pastor Ky Cunningham began teaching at DREEMM North in Cincinnati. That experience strengthened her passion for biblical teaching, inner healing, and deliverance. Her family relocated to Chattanooga, Tennessee, in 2022, and she continued serving DREEMM North through virtual teaching.
In 2025, Pastor Ky Cunningham and Kenny launched DREEMM South. The ministry is dedicated to helping people pursue healing, freedom, and restoration through Jesus Christ.
Alongside ministry, Pastor Ky Cunningham has spent more than 20 years in corporate leadership. Her professional work includes talent acquisition, coaching, mentoring, and leadership development. She now serves as a pastor, author, speaker, leadership strategist, and Co-Pastor of DREEMM South.
The title I Was Used to Being Used came to Pastor Ky Cunningham in 2019. At that time, she was still processing childhood trauma and examining the beliefs she had formed about herself. She waited until her personal healing had given her the experience needed to write from transformation.
From Surviving Pain to Rediscovering Purpose
These books reflect Pastor Ky Cunningham’s belief that trauma may explain a person’s past, yet it does not possess the authority to direct that person’s future. Her message encourages readers to pursue a fuller life shaped by faith, healing, and a renewed understanding of purpose.
Book 1 is available in Kindle and paperback formats on Amazon. Book 2, the companion workbook, is available in paperback only. Together, the two volumes offer a guided resource for readers who are prepared to confront painful cycles, apply biblical principles, and take purposeful steps toward spiritual restoration.
Readers interested in learning more about Pastor Ky Cunningham and her work can email support@kycunningham.com
